Getting over failures with a positive outlook

2018 Blog, Other

No matter how much we try to intentionally control our own lives, we have to be prepared for the fact that some circumstances of life will be shaped by factors beyond our control. Therefore, it’s important to properly get over failures, and rid ourselves of the problem of re-planning.

Sometimes, our lives may turn out in a way that we ourselves decide to rethink our prior paths, and find a new way for ourselves. In these cases, it’s easier to take the necessary steps by thinking in a project form, and plan our goals and targets point by point. Whether it’s our own decision, or the influence of factors beyond our control that make us reshape our lives, and re-plan our steps, the key factor for both cases is to make it aware and intentional, and to not give up. The clearer we are on our own capabilities, the opportunities in the given circumstances of life, the less unexpected problems we will have to deal with the new role we chose for ourselves.
In the different phases of our lives, we need to face different problems, which have no overall guideline on how to deal with each of them, but we aim to always make the best decision in the problematic situation, according to the circumstances. Thinking in a project framework helps people to learn key competences, which are indispensable to keep standing in critical situations. The effect of thinking in a project perspective is that we will not consider the lack of success as a failure, but as a failed project, where we have to conduct a detailed analysis on all the project phases, trying to find where actualisation became impossible due to an error. Therefore, we use negative experiences as fuel for re-planning.

If we consider unsuccessful trials as failures, and blame our environment and ourselves for them, even our confidence may take a serious hit. we will become less and less assured in our own competences and abilities, and we will have more and more insecurities when standing against the next challenges. In the worst case, due to our lack of self-confidence, we might not even try. We need to look upon our lives is a constant development process, where only we are responsible for how we use the knowledge and experiences we’ve gathered. In light of intentional life management, we accept that the challenges that greet us, and the hazards – in spite of how hard it is for us to live through tough times – only serve as catalysers for personal development in the long term. We have to realise that these are a natural part of everyday life, and that they serve as stepping stones for the development of our personalities.